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Applying Conflict Resolution Skills In Health Care PART II: Separate The People From The Problem

From the Disputing Blog of Karl Bayer, Victoria VanBuren, and Holly Hayes.

Last week, we started our health care conflict resolution series with applying the principled negotiation method to health care (post available here). Principled negotiation involves:

  1. Separating the people from the problem.
  2. Focusing on interests, not positions.
  3. Generating a variety of possibilities before deciding what to do.
  4. Insisting that the result be based on some objective standard.

This post will focus on “separating the people from the problem”. Here is an example of a healthcare conflict where the parties misunderstood each other, got angry and upset and started taking things personally:

Radiology Director: Technician X, I have a patient complaint here that says it took over an hour for a basic scan to be performed last week. What were you doing that caused such a delay?

Technician X: Which day, which patient? What were the details?

Radiology Director: That doesn’t matter, what matters is that now we have a complaint against our department. Our reputation as a department and as a patient-friendly hospital is on the line.
I’m going to have to put this complaint in your file. Now, what happened?

Technician X: I guess it doesn’t matter, what matters is the complaint. I’ll try to see that it doesn’t happen again.

Radiology Director: You do that. Another complaint like this and we’ll have to come up with a disciplinary action plan.

What happened? The problem, “we cannot have complaints like this” became a personal attack on Technician X. If we can separate the people from the problem, we can maintain a good working relationship and successfully address the problem.

In Getting to YES, Roger Fisher and William Ury outline three categories to think about in terms of dealing with people: perceptions, emotions and communication.

  1. Perceptions: In our example, the parties did not “put themselves in the other person’s shoes”. Had the Radiology Director listened to and responded to Technician X when he asked for the details, she might have gained a better understanding of the technician’s perception of the problem and why it happened. Understanding Technician X’s point of view would have allowed the Director to proceed with new information to solve the actual problem of a delay of service.
  2. Emotions: The Director did not recognize or explain her own emotions and why she was worried about the complaint. She also did not have any idea about how the technician felt about the complaint. When parties are freed from the burden of unexpressed emotions they can more likely work on the problem.
  3. Communication: In our scenario, the Director did not listen actively and acknowledge the technician as a human being with potentially useful information to address the problem.

Let’s change the situation to separate the people from the problem using the techniques described above:

Radiology Director: Technician X, I have a patient complaint here that says it took over an hour for a basic scan to be performed last week. Can you tell me more about what happened with Patient Y on Date Z?

Technician X: I remember that patient and that incident. That was the day our CT scanner broke and we didn’t have a spare part, so we had to schedule all of the patients on one machine. We tried to explain the problem to all of the patients, but the waiting time was much longer than the departmental goals we have set for ourselves. I felt really bad about Patient Y because she was next in line when the scanner broke and her wait was the longest.

Radiology Director: It is upsetting to me when we have a complaint because I have to respond to the CEO about what happened. You have given me some good information though. Do we need to work with our Physical Plant Maintenance Department and come up with a better system to keep spare parts on hand?

Technician X: I was really upset about the delay, too. I would be happy to schedule a meeting with the Plant Department and come up with a better system. Technician A has experience in this area from another facility, could she work with me and we can bring you some recommendations to consider in the next two weeks?

Radiology Director: Yes, please work with Technician A and the Physical Plant Department. Maybe we can turn this negative complaint into a positive by making sure it doesn’t happen again. I feel so much better now about communicating our plan of action to the CEO.

When the Radiology Director dealt with Technician X as a human being and dealt with the problem on its own merits, she was able to maintain a good working relationship while successfully addressing the problem. Look for the next post in our series where we will discuss focusing on interests, not positions in the health care setting.

We welcome any comments on this post and any suggestions for upcoming posts in this series.


Holly Hayes

Holly Hayes Bovio received a Masters in Health Administration (MHA) from Duke University and her undergraduate degree from Southern Methodist University. She holds a certificate in mediation from Texas State.  Holly brings a strong hospital operations background to healthcare mediations including a focus on clinical quality.  Holly managed her own consulting… MORE >

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