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Meredith Richardson

How to Get Rid of 80% of Your Unhappiness in Relationships

(2/22/18)Meredith Richardson

Have you heard of the 80/20 Rule? The theory is that 80% of consequences are a direct result of 20% of causes.

Phyllis Pollack

You Look Like Someone I Can Trust!

(2/22/18)Phyllis Pollack

When my sister had just been born, my mother boarded a crowded war time train with my sister in her arms, then turnd and handed the baby to a trusting stranger.

Jason Dykstra

Spirituality of Conflict Transformation

(2/22/18)Jason Dykstra

Over the years, I have sensed a profound need for the development of a spirituality of conflict transformation within the peacebuilding community generally and within the Mennonite peacebuilding community specifically.

Cinnie Noble

Letting Conflict Define Us

(2/22/18)Cinnie Noble

There are times we get so caught up in a dispute that we become defined by it.

Lorraine Segal

Managing Conflict with your Inner Critic

(2/22/18)Lorraine Segal

Many of us have a vocal inner critic, who tells us what we’re doing wrong, how what we’re trying won’t work, how we’ll never be good enough.

Shirli Kirschner

Court-based Dispute Resolution

(2/16/18)Shirli Kirschner

Adapted from Prof Tania Sourdin, Alternative Dispute Resolution, 5th ed, 2016, Thomson Reuters. ADRAC gratefully acknowledges the authorship of Professor Sourdin, who kindly prepared this paper.

Cinnie Noble

Being Sorry

(2/16/18)Cinnie Noble

Sometimes we are sorry about what we said in a conflict and say so. Sometimes we are not sorry but say we are anyway.

Lorraine Segal

Setting Boundaries with a Workplace Bully

(2/16/18)Lorraine Segal

Whether the bully is your boss or another employee, setting boundaries can be challenging.

Tammy Lenski

Can this Key Ingredient Protect Your Marriage from Relationship Conflict?

(2/16/18)Tammy Lenski

Couples can have big fights, frequent conflict, and even bicker all the time and still have healthy, fulfilling, and lasting relationships. How so?

Dan Simon

FAQ’s from Mediators

(2/09/18)Dan Simon

I often present to mediators for an hour or so on the transformative approach. These are certain questions that come up regularly.

Eric Slepak

Do Android Mediators Dream of Electric Agreements?

(2/09/18)Eric Slepak

With the new year being still fresh enough that some of us, and hopefully not just me, continue to write 2017 on their checks, the future is at the forefront of many of our minds.

Sabine Walsh

Educating the Dispute Resolvers of the Future

(2/09/18)Sabine Walsh

The ICC Mediation Competition in Paris, and the growing number of others like it, are contributing to a change in the way disputes are going to be resolved in the future.

Ronald S. Kraybill

Talking Stick Breaks Impasse

(2/09/18)Ronald S. Kraybill

Divided Democrats and Republicans found a way to talk this week, and actually listened to each other, using a talking stick!

Tom Kosakowski

World Health Organization Ombuds Says Dysfunctional Management is Impacting Mission

(2/06/18)Tom Kosakowski

In January 2018, the Ombudsman for the international public health agency told leadership that managers lack the interpersonal skills required for effective team communications, constructive conversations about performance, and conflict resolution.

Ask the Judge - Do I need an Attorney's Help to Create a Parenting Plan?

(2/02/18)Guest Author, Sherrill Ellsworth

As long as you and your coParent are committed to working together to create a Parenting Plan that’s best for your children, there is no need for extra costs.

Joe Markowitz

Three Quotations from Lincoln on Conflict Resolution

(2/02/18)Joe Markowitz

It’s ironic that the president who led us through by most measures our most destructive war had some of the most profound things to say about peace-making.

Meredith Richardson

What Does the 2017 Tax Law Mean for Divorcing Couples?

(2/02/18)Meredith Richardson

I sat down with Jill Boynton of Cornerstone Financial Planning to find out how this law will effect divorcing couples.

Phyllis Pollack

I Like You!

(2/02/18)Phyllis Pollack

Lawsuits are products.

Maria Simpson

Juries of Their Peers

(2/02/18)Maria Simpson

When I was in fourth grade, a few millennia ago, our teacher established a system so we could settle a lot of our own disputes.

Patricia Porter

Listening to Your Triggers – How to Suspend Judgment When You Are Angry

(2/02/18)Patricia Porter

A hot button or trigger word can be words, a tone of voice, or a particular way someone conveys body language that sets you off.

John Lande

Three Easy Pieces

(1/26/18)John Lande

This post describes three short pieces that you might want to use in courses or continuing education programs.

Tammy Lenski

Spark a Shift in Perspective with this Question

(1/26/18)Tammy Lenski

It’s hard to get fresh perspective about our situation or the other person when we’re trapped inside a conflict.

Cinnie Noble

Preparing to "Be" in Conflict

(1/26/18)Cinnie Noble

There are times we know we will encounter pushback, defensiveness, offensiveness and other negative reactions to issues we want to raise with another person.

Shirli Kirschner

Criminal Justice and ADR

(1/26/18)Shirli Kirschner

What does ADR mean in the criminal justice context?

Ronald S. Kraybill

Shift Dynamics with One Word

(1/26/18)Ronald S. Kraybill

Here’s a strategy to improve dynamics in a difficult conversation: In an argument or tense discussion, replace “but” with “and”.

Mark Baer

Hiring a Divorce Attorney? Buyer Beware

(1/19/18)Mark Baer

John Keith wrote the following: “It is inherent in our role that we fight other peoples’ battles, but this duty encourages us to identify with our clients and view their battles as our own.”

Bruce Edwards

Making Peace Our Business

(1/19/18)Bruce Edwards

How can we as uniquely qualified and successful commercial mediators find ways to apply our mediation skills to address broader societal conflicts?

John Lande

Stone Soup: Takeaways from New Hampshire Mediation Training

(1/19/18)John Lande

As part of recent mediation trainings, Susan Yates and I collected survey data and focus-group-like comments from the training participants.

Chris Poole

In Memoriam: CPR Chairman Emeritus Charles Renfrew

(1/19/18)Chris Poole

The International Institute for Conflict Prevention and Dispute Resolution mourns the loss of Chairman Emeritus Charles B. Renfrew (pictured above), who died in San Francisco on Dec. 14 at age 89.

Michael A. Zeytoonian

Is an Adversarial Process Our Best and Highest Good? The Case for Early Mediation

(1/19/18)Michael A. Zeytoonian

Disputes are a part of life. On all levels, in most relationships, we disagree about things.

Cinnie Noble

When the Day is Done

(1/12/18)Cinnie Noble

When you consider what is most important to you about the conflict and the other person, what is the optimum way of proceeding, do you think?

Tammy Lenski

The Picasso Trick for Better Problem Solving

(1/12/18)Tammy Lenski

When we become too wedded to our own solutions, conflict resolution conversations can get pretty stuck.

Larry Susskind

Three Surprising Leadership Skills

(1/12/18)Larry Susskind

MIT is looking ahead, trying to figure out what skills the next generation of scientists, engineers, applied social scientists, designers and managers will need.

Jacqueline Burnett-Brown

Family Counseling to Resolve Conflict?

(1/12/18)Jacqueline Burnett-Brown

If you are a member of a family, whether it is as father, mother, child, sibling or an extended member, there will be conflict.

Joe Markowitz

Objections to Joint Sessions

(1/12/18)Joe Markowitz

“Joint sessions are a waste of time,” said the judge conducting a mediation in which I was representing one of the parties.

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