I mediate family disputes: divorce, temporary separation, contracts to stay married, sibling disputes, will contests and other estate issues. I also train divorce mediators.
A lawyer since 1961, I also served as Mass. state court administrator from 1974-1978; then my wife and I traveled with our 3 children by bike and backpack through Europe and Asia for a year and I prepared for family mediation by living with them in 4 person tent.
I began family mediation in Mass. in 1979 and have mediated approximately 2500 family disputes, trained approximately 1000 people in divorce mediation in Mass, NY, ME and CT, written extensively about family mediation, organized five gatherings of family mediators in NE and attended countless mediation conferences and numerous other mediation trainings.
“Stay in charge” is my fundamental suggestion to clients. “What Do I Want?” is the question each client must answer. I help each client decide and then say what he or she wants, and help the other client(s) hear. I provide legal and other relevant information to help clients make their own informed decisions, not agreeing to anything until they are ready, and encourage each to consult his/her own lawyer or other advisor, if any. Each client should feel in control of his/her own life and, if possible, even feel acknowledged in some way by the other.
After the first half hour free, $425 an hour and most couples take no more than 10 hours of my time to reach a complete agreement. I have never had a fee dispute because it takes two to have a dispute and the client is always right. Besides, I want clients to be pleased with my work and feel it was worth the cost.