(12/15/17)Lester L. Adams
If we are to ever have greater success at resolving our disagreements with each other, we have to deal with the destructive anger that causes us to start disagreements, fuels the flames of opposition, and keeps us fighting each other even when we have a way out of conflict.
The article is about general foundations and principles of family
conflicts in relationship to mediation focus. The
overall article is a summary study in 10 steps for family conflicts
through mediation process.
What is the relevance of religion to ADR? This question is very different to considering the relevance of ADR to religion.
(9/06/17)Todd Jarvis, Aaron Wolf
This is a book review by Todd Jarvis of The Spirit of Dialogue: Lessons from Faith Traditions in Transforming Conflict by Aaron Wolf.
This is a fictional story based on fact, teaching an example about mediation.
"Between the Fact and Non-Fact is the Conflict," this statement is so blatantly simple that one wonders why we have not been able to dwell on this and recognize that this pulsating split second wonder can have appalling or astounding consequences.
As mediators, it is important that we present as professional and competent in our relational expertise with parties.
(10/14/16)Jan Frankel Schau
During the week between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, the Jewish people declare that “The Book of Life” is still open.
In this article I will offer a panoramic view on the concept of peace in Islam and on Islamic conflict resolution principles and practices. Albeit the overwhelming negative narratives on Islam, this religion and tradition is rooted in an articulate philosophy of peace, justice, reciprocity, and community.
Several months ago, a friend asked me how one goes about practicing forgiveness with respect to someone who persists in crossing relational boundaries, making unkind remarks, refusing to take responsibility for his/her behaviour, etc.
(7/22/16)John Paul Lederach
John Paul Lederach describes discussing alternatives to violent conflict with groups who felt powerless and that violence was their only avenue of action. One method he uses is to ask them what violence has achieved historically.
I tried to figure out an answer for the client. Then went home and withdrew into myself.
This article is based on a sermon that grapples with the difference between law and morality by examining the purpose of the recitation on Rosh Hashanah of the story of the Binding of Isaac. The author’s objective is to explain why we need a place for mediation beside the justice distributed in the legal system.
Behind closed doors, the workplace is changing for the better each day with mediation as it’s catalyst.
I have gotten emails from dispute resolution colleagues asking what we, in Missouri’s dispute resolution center, might do (or might have done) to help manage the conflict at our university more constructively.
The Pope, a rabbi and an imam…sounds like the beginning of a very funny joke but last week was a reality. elliot pope As you likely know, last Friday the Pope hosted an interfaith prayer gathering at the 9/11 Memorial and Museum. This was trailblazing and I’ve linked to the video here for those you who have not yet seen it.
There’s a sacred ADR story in the Second Book of Samuel, which relates how the negotiating skills of a “wise woman” saved her city of Abel of Beth-maacah. 2 Samuel 20: 1-22*. A man named Sheba son of Bichri tried to incite a rebellion among the people of Israel against King David and the people of Judah.
We like to believe that we are rational beings who make rational decisions. Sometimes, we are. And sometimes, we are not.
Goals, predictions, vision statement. Frame it in any manner, what stakeholders are looking for is the fulfilment of the promise of mediation.
After a conflict between communities or nations has been led to an ending phase, political reconciliation requires that both parties be brought closer to the point they may have respect for each other’s rights and can live peacefully together. When the conflict passed through war or mass atrocity, reconciliation is especially hard to achieve. There are limits to forgiveness that may state significant barriers on the pathway to reconciliation.
The recent film “Exodus: Gods and Kings” has sparked some renewed interest in the actual written record of those events.So I share some of the themes which have emerged belatedly for me in this case study extraordinaire. One of the indicators from research of an “expert” modern day negotiator is someone who takes time to reflect systematically on past negotiations and attempts to record lessons from those events.
Everything is Workable (Shambhala, 2013) is Hamilton’s book about how to live consciously in a world sated with conflicts. She acknowledges that learning conflict skills asks something of us: 'The more intimate we become with human suffering, the greater our compulsion to serve others.'
(10/21/14)Michael A. Zeytoonian
I wanted to continue the theme from my last Blog post about the Sea of Galilee and the notion of “being a Galilee” a bit with this blog post. This article discusses what I learned over this trip and the trouble with false assumptions.
(10/13/14)Michael A. Zeytoonian
Strange as this might sound, I had the good fortune of being in Israel during a war, a declared cease fire and its aftermath, and experiencing how these impacted the people involved. While it was a source of some tension and heightened vigilance, it provided a rare opportunity to experience the shifts and changes that occur when a war stops and a cease fire is in effect, in this place that has been a historical hotbed for conflict.
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The traditional view is that a mediator is a neutral, third party who helps two or more conflicting parties cooperatively resolve their differences. Interestingly enough, this belief is analogous to the Cartesian-Newtonian epistemological position that holds that one can be an independent observer of an objective world, in science or in daily life. However, I am skeptical about this position, both epistemologically and clinically. What remains an open question is whether a mediator can actually ever be a 'neutral third.'