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The Week In Assholes, Part Deux

In honor of the second week of my East Coast Book Tour, I give you the second edition of The Week in Assholes (week one here).

Over at the New York Press, the irresistible Flavor of the Week: The Year of the Asshole, final words below without giving away the ending of this online dating confessional.

It felt like a breakup without the relationship.

I didn’t need to consult the Chinese zodiac to know that this was a very bad portent for the rest of the year. 2011 will be the Year of the Asshole.

In Houston, at Culture Map, Why Women Love Assholes. Below an excerpt but you’ll want to read the full article if you’re under 35.

We like asshole guys not because they’re assholes but despite it.

See, when you’re smitten with a man then you’re willing to put up with all kinds of bullshit. In my experience I’m too busy falling in love with a guy’s good qualities to heed red flags like that I’ve caught him snooping through my text messages and e-mail. “But I have nothing to hide!” I’ll tell myself. “Besides, we’re, like, so in love!”

Then months later — surprise! — he turns out to be a controlling dipshit.

A tough week for parents of kids with sports heroes – try restraining their language after Antonio Cromartie, Linguistics Hero (the best headline of every sports channel’s reportage of this ear-reddening interview).

Cromartie was asked by the Daily News if he’s ever seen Brady pointing after the Patriots score.

“We see that a lot. He does it a lot,” Cromartie said. “That’s the kind of guy he is. We really don’t give a damn, to tell you the truth.”

Okay, what kind of guy is Brady?

“An asshole. Fuck him.”

Krugman a “flat out asshole” over at Fox.

Aaron Sorkin takes it back: Zuckerberg not an asshole at New York Magazine.

Shawn Ryan (The Shield) on network language limitations at the Hollywood Reporter.

We couldn’t really use jag-off and we couldn’t use asshole, so we came up with jackhole.

Not every network bans the word “asshole” – this from Deadline Hollywood on David Kelley’s new legal series with Kathy Bates:

And what about the role appealed to Bates? “I read in the script where the character had her feet up on the desk smoking pot and watching Bugs Bunny, and after I saw that I was in,” she said. Bates also gets to use some salty language in a clip shown critics at the TCA gathering, calling someone an “asshole” (a word that Kelley admits he couldn’t have gotten away with at ABC during his Boston Legal days). “NBC is very good about content and lenient with dialogue,” Kelley said, “much more so than ABC was. We have broadcast standards battles with every script, but ‘asshole’ cleared.”

That’s all from The Week in Assholes. If you’d like to know how a conflict specialist defines one, mosey on over to amazon and pick up a copy of the book!


Victoria Pynchon

Attorney-mediator Victoria Pynchon is a panelist with ADR Services, Inc. Ms. Pynchon was awarded her LL.M Degree in Dispute Resolution from the Straus Institute in May of 2006, after 25 years of complex commercial litigation practice, with sub-specialties in intellectual property, securities fraud, antitrust, insurance coverage, consumer class actions and all… MORE >

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