Cinergy Coaching by Cinnie Noble
Sometimes when we are in conflict with another person we are faced with a dilemma about what we are or are not willing to say or do, or give or take, to reconcile matters. Though at some level of consciousness we want to settle things, there are times when we realize that what it may take to do so would compromise our values and needs. Or, we may have an excessive amount of antipathy towards the other person or sense that coming from them. Or, we may be worn down and despairing, have lost our energy, no longer be vested in an outcome we originally wanted, realize that settlement is too high a price, and so on.
Walking away from conflict situations and doing so with grace, if that is how you want to proceed, takes lots of thought about the risks of doing so and also, the advantages. It is reflecting too on what that means for the dispute and the relationship. These and other important considerations are the subject of this week’s ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) blog.
To answer the following questions, I invite you to bring to mind a dispute about which you are contemplating walking away and doing so with grace.
How do you describe the expression – walking away with grace?
What is the situation from which you want to walk away – with grace?
What is the strongest push that is leading you to walk away at this time?
What are the risks of walking away regarding the issues in dispute?
What are the risks of doing so for the relationship?
What are the advantages of walking away for the dispute?
What are the advantages of doing so for the relationship?
What will walking away look like in a way that fits your description as you answered the first question here?
When you think of walking away with grace in this way, what does that feel like? What do you not like about how it feels, if anything?
What are you thinking now about this situation?
What other ConflictMastery™ Quest(ions) may you add here?
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