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5 Benefits of Hiring a Mediator for Your Divorce Negotiation

There are so many ways that a mediator can bring value to spouses that are separating or divorcing but I didn’t think a blog called, “80 Ways a Mediator Brings Value” would be that appealing. 

Mediation offers a constructive path forward, allowing couples to resolve their differences amicably and reach agreements for their unique circumstance. As a family mediator based in Victoria, British Columbia who typically mediates for spouses that prefer to self-represent at mediation; here are five key ways that a mediator can bring value to your divorce negotiation:

  1. 1. Reduces Emotional Stress

Divorce is a challenging time and mediation offers a more supportive and less confrontational approach, which reduces stress and emotional strain. Mediation is also a private and confidential process so there is no stress or concern that your in-laws, colleagues or children will one day read your divorce transcripts. 

Mediators can help keep your emotions in check and contribute to a calm climate so that you are able to focus on practical solutions and make good decisions.

  1. 2. Saves Time and Money

Mediation is quicker and less expensive than going to court, arbitration or using a collaborative law process. 

Mediation sessions can often be scheduled at the convenience of the parties involved, and many mediations are resolved in just a few sessions compared to months or years in court. Many mediators offer both online and in person sessions so you can participate from the comfort of your home if preferred. 

  1. 3. Empowers Both Spouses

Mediation empowers both spouses by giving them control over the outcomes of their divorce. Unlike in court, where a judge makes the final decision, mediation allows both participants to have a say in the final agreement.

The opportunity to be heard and empowered can lead to greater satisfaction with the agreement and increases the likelihood that both participants will adhere to the terms as they were actively involved in co-creating the solution. 

  1. 4. Child Focused

Mediators are trained to prioritize the well-being of children involved in a divorce. They can help parents focus on creating parenting plans that are in the best interests of the children.

Mediators can remind you that while your relationship has changed, your children’s needs have not and will work with both parents to ensure your parenting arrangements are going to meet their needs.

  1. 5. Promotes Long-Term Cooperation

The collaborative nature of mediation helps build a foundation for future cooperation between divorcing spouses, which is particularly beneficial if there are children.

By learning to communicate and negotiate during mediation, parents are better equipped to handle future conflicts or decisions regarding their children.

As you consider your options, remember that mediation offers a path to a more peaceful and respectful resolution, ensuring that both spouses can move forward with dignity and hope for the future. If you are ready to explore how mediation can work for you, don’t hesitate to reach out for a consultation.


Amy Robertson

Amy Robertson is a sought-after and experienced mediator who has designed and delivered mediation training for mediators and lawyers across Canada on her client-centered approach to family mediation. Amy has successfully mediated over 900 mediations and her approach was developed to minimize the cost and time it takes for her… MORE >

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