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When do we really learn good conversation skills? Well, we don’t. We’re just kind of expected to pick them up…
And we wonder why people aren’t better communicators. How can you be that person people love to talk to?
I’ve posted a lot of research and expert interviews on the subject so let’s round up the info and make it actionable.
In this post you’ll learn:
How to make a good first impression.
How to be a great listener.
What the best subjects to discuss are.
How to prevent awkward silences.
How to politely end a conversation.
And a lot more. C’mon, let’s chat.
How To Make A Good First Impression
First impressions really are a big deal and talking to new people can be daunting, no doubt. What’s the answer?
…And when they open up, don’t judge. Nobody — including you — likes to feel judged.
FBI behavior expert Robin Dreeke’s #1 piece of advice: “Seek someone else’s thoughts and opinions without judging them.” Here’s Robin:
The number one strategy I constantly keep in the forefront of my mind with everyone I talk to is non-judgmental validation. Seek someone else’s thoughts and opinions without judging them. People do not want to be judged in any thought or opinion that they have or in any action that they take. It doesn’t mean you agree with someone. Validation is taking the time to understand what their needs, wants, dreams and aspirations are.
Suspend your ego. Avoid correcting people or saying anything that could be interpreted as one-upmanship.
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