I’m blogging from the Stanley Hotel — hence the Stanley Steamer — in the Rocky Mountains — hence the snow.
Stephen King wrote the Shining here, not in my room, but right down the hall. The book was Inspired by the Stanley. Hence the picture of Jack.
What’s most exciting, however, is that I’m attending the Founding Congress of Mediators Beyond Borders; seeing old friends and meeting for the first time people I’ve long known at a distance; and getting to know an incredibly diverse and fascinating group of people dedicated to bringning conflict resolution techniques to international conflict.
More of that later.
Before getting to the “money shot” about changing the other guy’s mind, I want to share with you Ken Cloke’s 12 Ways Systems Resist Change from his lecture yesterday: Mediators as Global Citizens: How Mediators Can Change the Planet.
I start with resistance because you can’t even begin to think about change until you understand why it is you’re not getting past opposition’s door. You might most readily notice in the following list the ways in which your workplace (or your government!) supports its dysfunction.
You’ll also recognize your opponent’s opposition to you and perhaps even yours to him.
Change strategies tomorrow.
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