The value of Sandy and Rob’s house is falling. The prospect of acquiring one let alone two alternative homes is fast evaporating. Rob fears that, along with the marriage, he may lose his job and with it his mortgage capacity. Sandy hasn’t worked in ten years and the cost of child care worries her.
Breaking up is hard at the best of times but it can get even tougher when money gets tight. There are few things that affect a relationship more than financial worries. Couples strained by disagreements over who should pay the bills or how to keep on top of debt, find it more difficult to ignore their differences and the troubles that surround them. When money starts running out and reality must be faced, accusations start flying and marriages can fall apart.
“They started to fight when the money got tight, and they just didn’t count on the tears” are lyrics from the song “Scenes from an Italian Restaurant” by Billy Joel in his 1977 album “The Stranger”. But must it always end in tears? Must differences over scarce and limited financial resources be determined by divorce court room battles?
Not always. Sandy and Rob, along with other separating and divorcing couples are discovering in Bath, England and elsewhere in the UK, that there are lawyers and other experts with specialist knowledge and experience of divorce, who can offer them less destructive methods of divorce.
Choosing the right method in the beginning could save separating and divorcing couples time, money and tears in the long term.
One such method is Collaborative Practice.
Billy Joel continues his song “….they got a divorce as a matter of course and they parted the closest of friends”. That ideal may not always be possible but how a couple chooses to divorce will impact them and their children for years to come. My practice, at Sharp Family Law, is dedicated to helping couples like Sandy and Rob find creative solutions to their financial circumstances, crafted by them and not the divorce courts.