Yes and No are powerful words.
What impact does saying each of them have on your body and nervous system?
Yes is often celebrated as the liberating word needed to launch us into joy and full embodiment of our truest selves. "Say Yes to life!" for happiness and fulfilment of our deepest dreams, is a widely heard refrain.
While saying Yes can be dynamic and open many doors of opportunity, we must also be able to say No for healthy balance, wellbeing, and integrity in our lives.
Developing the ability to say No, and to locate relationships where our No's are welcomed and respected, can be a painful and daunting task.
Many of us have been conditioned to always say Yes, to always help, to always be available, to always agree, to always extend ourselves for others.
What does it mean to say No? To acknowledge and value our own needs? To set boundaries for our own wellbeing?
What happens when we carry trauma from times our No's have been violated by others or even by ourselves?
How can we heal and bring balance to the ways we engage with boundaries and connection?
The wonderful news is that by understanding neuroscience, healing our relationship with Yes and No is possible! We can begin this process by giving ourselves grace to say Yes and No when we choose to, and not when we feel like we should. We can also discuss this in future trainings.
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