Reality, to us is expressed through Language.
Language impacts how we see the world and how we process Experiences.
We experience the world as far as we have the vocabulary for it – beyond that, it seems unreal, awe-inspiring, even aggravating.
Therefore, artists, when they imagine, create or write, they create new realities- something beyond what is already accepted.
When the poets compose, they will onto the universe a reality.
They choreograph words to present to us a world beyond the mundane.
People are often moved to tears by works of art because that invokes emotions they have never been felt before, and the artist does that for them.
The artist provides them with a lens to view past the confines of the ordinary. Art is not only a vessel for novel realities but a testament to existing, untapped ones. It is in art that the subversive potential to imagine and reckon with the other world lies!
To my senses, dispute resolution is also a form of art.
A dispute arises when the contending parties feel like they have a monopoly over truth or that their story is the “reality”.
The insistence on the “I”, narrowed perspectives, and limited fluency in communication skills is what aggravates a disagreement to a seemingly unresolvable dispute.
Then, a mediator, as a facilitator of communication comes along, playing the role of an artist. (S)he conjures up a new reality for the parties, one characterized by collaboration not conflict.
The mediator listens to both the parties and helps them process and express their concerns.
Mediation is communication literacy, where parties are equipped with a renewed vocabulary that allows them to move past their positions and succinctly lay out their interests.
The mediator brings the parties attention to new realities by asking them to explore a world beyond the ‘I’ and collaborate as “We”.
(S)he helps the parties conjure up various options, vocalize them, amend them upon feedback. Collaboration is now an achievable reality even for the most hostile, antagonized parties. Therefore, Mediation is an art and the mediator is an artist.
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