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City Commissioner Commends ISCT Staff Member for Work on Police Reform Initiative

It is no exaggeration to say that the success of the Working Group in coming up with three sets of nearly unanimously-accepted reform recommendations was a direct result of her outreach, her listening and other relationship skills, and her tact.

So said Dayton City Commissioner, Matt Joseph, about Lydia Vanderkaay, ISCT Assistant Coordinator and Mediation Specialist for the Dayton Mediation Center. He said so in a letter to Vanderkaay’s boss at the Dayton Mediation Center, Michelle Zaremba. The Mayor of Dayton and other top city officials were copied on the letter as well.

Vanderkaay participated in the city’s Oversight Working Group’s efforts to create Police Oversight Recommendations.  She took on a variety of roles in that process. Commissioner Joseph praised all of her efforts, and described some of her contributions as follows:

Her primary role, however, was to ensure that in this turbulent time, we were able to carry-out an open and honest dialogue on very difficult subjects. She absolutely shined in this task and carried out the responsibilities of this role with thoughtful determination. She engaged, in private discussion, members of the Working Group who appeared to be reluctant to participate, or may have felt offended. She made countless calls to those who were having difficulties, whether they be material or personal, to see if she could help them get back into the process and re-engage in the discussion. In the course of these activities, she became the most trusted person in our Working Group, making her extremely valuable to me, and vital to the success of the Working Group. Due to the trust she built as the months went by, members of the group would call or email her about concerns they were having, or suggestions they wanted to bring up.

To Zaremba, Commissioner Joseph added, “I wanted to make sure you were aware of her excellent performance and the exceedingly positive way her performance reflects upon you and the Mediation Center. “

Zaremba also praised the work of four additional Dayton Mediation Center staff members, Janet Mueller, Aaron Primm, Arch Grieve, and Cheryl Alderman, who also served as facilitators for the project.  Zaremba said:

This is the first time our city leadership has experienced Transformative Dialogue first-hand and now they have a better understanding of this work at the Dayton Mediation Center.  I know much of our work is done privately in mediation rooms or with groups and we rarely get this level of public acknowledgement so I thought it was important to share!

See a video here about the Police Reform process that Lydia Vanderkaay and her colleagues worked on.


Dan Simon

Dan is a leader in the field of transformative mediation. He is the author of the chapter on divorce mediation in the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation's ("ISCT") TRANSFORMATIVE MEDIATION SOURCEBOOK. He is a Past Chair of the Minnesota State Bar Association's Alternative Dispute Resolution Section. He served… MORE >


Lydia Vanderkaay

Lydia Vanderkaay, MA began as a volunteer mediator at the Center in 2017, and started as a Mediation Specialist Contractor later that year. She currently helps manage the Adult Victim/Offender program. In addition to this, Lydia works as the Assistant Coordinator at the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation, whose… MORE >

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