Find Mediators Near You:

Everyone Has a Story . . .

Yes…it’s true, everyone has a story. I have a story, you have a story, your friend has a story, even your enemy has a story. Everyone has a story. Agreed?
When I sit down with people everyone has a story. These stories usually are conflicting stories and each person believes that their story is the truth. I also formulate a story from these stories…then there is a ‘story’ that actually happened out there somewhere. One thing that I try to do is to get people to see the other person’s story…whether they believe it or not, then both people/parties can formulate a new story together. One thing that I love about the video below is the last two cards that Jordan holds up….I’m not going to write them…but take a look at them and let them sink in.

I know this video isn’t talking about mediation or conflict (well…kind of about conflict for sure…) specifically, but I think it is something that will help all of us in our next conflictual (yes I created a new word) situation. Take a look and let me know what you think down in the comments section!


Jason Dykstra

Jason is a Conflict Management Specialist who is helping organizations and congregations move from conflict situations to creative solutions. He specializes in relational and communication issues and uses his experience and training in mediation, group facilitation, conflict management coaching, speaking and teaching to aid you and your surroundings to better… MORE >

Featured Members

View all

Read these next


Arthur Pearlstein: Unintended Consequences – Video

Arthur Pearlstein describes his frustration with the unintended consequences that stem from rule-making.

By Arthur Pearlstein

Lessons From the ABA’s Excellent Report on Mediator Techniques

The ABA Section of Dispute Resolution Task Force on Research on Mediator Techniques recently released an excellent report really worth reading.  It should be of value to anyone interested in mediation. ...

By John Lande

The Federalization of Consumer Arbitration: Possible Solutions

Disputing Blog by Karl Bayer, Victoria VanBuren, and Holly Hayes Sarah Rudolph Cole, John W. Bricker Professor of Law and Director of the Program on Dispute Resolution at the Ohio...

By Beth Graham