Is Workplace Happiness the Goal?

I spent the past few weeks wanting to write a nice piece to celebrate 50.000 subscribers (thanks to you all!)

As the milestone approached – and quickly passed – I kept thinking about it but felt like I was going in circles despite my best intentions.

My mind kept asking:

What if I’ve been doing it all wrong?

I firmly believe that happiness at work is achievable, yet many philosophers and writers argue that constantly pursuing happiness can lead to dissatisfaction and frustration: in other words,

we are all struggling with the unhappiness of not being happy.

Are we so focused on the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that we overlook the simple joys in our everyday lives?

As the days and weeks passed and this piece was going nowhere, it finally hit me this morning.

I had an interesting discussion with a client about how their altruistic efforts came from their own need for happiness, not just from a genuine desire to help others.

They mentioned feeling guilty, knowing their main reason was personal satisfaction and not wanting to enjoy their happiness alone.

Could it be that the only real way to be happy is to selfishly care and uplift everyone with you, so you are in great company?

To start putting this into practice, consider the following:

1. Understand the Paradox of Selfishness

Often, we see people trying to do everything on their own, viewing it as a badge of honor. However, prioritizing self-care and encouraging collaboration is the best way to boost work performance.

So, be “selfish” and ask for help. When you do, you set an example, making it easier for others to do the same. Delegate tasks and let others take on responsibilities; it helps them grow and learn. Also, set boundaries to manage excessive requests that might derail you from your core responsibilities.

By taking care of yourself, you’ll be more productive and better equipped to support your team. Prioritizing self-care not only benefits you but also those around you.

2. Embrace Collaboration on Shared Goals

Strategic selfishness in collaboration means finding ways to work with others that benefit both you and your team. Shared objectives can significantly boost motivation and success.

Seek out projects where goals are clearly aligned. Propose and engage in initiatives with your team or cross-departmental teams that support these shared objectives. By focusing on goals that matter to everyone involved, you achieve better results and create a more supportive work environment.

This approach not only helps you reach your personal goals but also drives collective success, making your work easier and everyone more satisfied. It’s the classic win-win scenario.

3. Leverage the Ripple Effect of Generosity

Imagine if everyone kept doing good for others in return for happiness. The endorphin boost from acts of kindness could inspire the receiver to do the same. This would not only exponentially grow happiness in the workplace but also enhance performance, collaboration, and growth.

Encourage a culture where acts of kindness and support are common. Create a place where praise and saying thank you is the norm, and where feedback is given and incorporated without anyone feeling blamed.

When you help a colleague or offer praise, it can prompt them to reciprocate, creating a cycle of positive actions. This ripple effect boosts morale, fosters engagement, and motivates the team. By making generosity the norm, you drive collective success and create a thriving work environment.

Next time you doubt your altruism because you believe your motives are selfish, think about this: The real goal is not about how happy you can be. It’s about who you lift and bring with you once you get there, because true happiness is shared.

                       

Serena Martino

I am an Executive and Team Coach who brings a unique and holistic approach to achieving excellence. With extensive experience in both Corporate and Startup environments across six different countries, I have developed a deep understanding of cultural diversity and the intricate dynamics involved in scaling internationally. My expertise lies… MORE >