Find Mediators Near You:

Mediation, Elder Abuse And Saving The Family: Mediation & Conflict Strategies To Avoid Elder Abuse

Texas Conflict Coach Audio Blog by Pattie Porter

Listen to the podcast here.

The guest speaker on the podcast is Steven G. Mehta , one of California’s premier award-winning attorney mediators thanks to his work in helping resolve disputes in a variety of types of civil litigation. Steve has been successfully mediating complex cases since 1999.  He is the author of the critically acclaimed book, 112 Ways to Succeed in Negotiation or Mediation.

Here are strategies for avoiding elder abuse:

1) Be vigilant and watch for the early signs in your senior family member that might indicate “diminished capacity.” You can do this by…
a) Visiting your elderly family member more often especially if you do not live close by
b) Calling on a regular basis so as to prevent isolation from that senior member of the family
c) Talking to friends and family to get more information on how the elderly family member and caregiver are doing

2) Before making accusations about elder abuse or neglect, get knowledgeable about the situation and try to understand what is happening
a) Don’t jump to conclusions or accusations
b) Try to understand from the caregiver’s perspective whether it be a sister, brother or other family member who lives day-in and day-out with the elder person

3) Change the words you use from “You should have” or “You did that” TO I-statements. Take ownership of your feelings and thinking by saying “I feel left out.” or “I think mom needs..” or “I believe…” This will prevent putting the other person on the defense.

4) Stop talking and LISTEN without interruption.

                        author

Patricia Porter

Patricia "Pattie" Porter, LCSW, ACC, is the Founder and President of Conflict Connections, Inc. in San Antonio, TX. She provides workplace conflict resolution services including conflict management and abrasive behavior coaching, EEO and workplace mediation, change management and team facilitation, and training throughout the U.S. She is the Founder of… MORE >

Featured Members

ad
View all

Read these next

Category

New ‘Top Shelf’ Workplace Mediation Training Now Available Online!

Unlock the power of effective communication in the workplace with Mediate.com's comprehensive 2023 Workplace Mediation Course, "Connecting Employees, Departments, and Corporations: One Conversation at a Time." This online 22-hour training...

By Clare Fowler
Category

Giving Back Or Just Giving It Away: Can Mediators Empower Others If We De-Value Our Own Expertise?

I recently attended a ‘volunteer mediator’ recruitment event at the District of Columbia Bar Association. Representatives from several state and federal court systems plus some US government agencies pitched their...

By Sig Cohen
Category

Lisa Parkinson: Family Mediation Field in UK – Video

Lisa Parkinson describes how family mediation came about in the UK. Divorce rates were on the rise and research was revealing the harmful effects parental conflict had on children. The...

By Lisa Parkinson
×