When you are considering a divorce, it is a reasonable question to ask whether you could stay in the same home as your ex. Co-parenting while sharing the same house is a growing trend particularly because of an increased consciousness about the impact of a divorce on the kids.
This parenting arrangement is commonly termed as “nesting” where the co-parents take turns living in the marital home so that the children do not have to move out. The non-adversarial divorce mediation process offers an opportunity to explore the possibility of nesting in a cooperative environment.
Skilled divorce mediators can explain the advantages of nesting to both parents where this arrangement may prove to be a win-win for both parties, and more so for the kids.
Benefits of a Nesting Divorce
At the time of divorce mediation, your mediator may shed light on the following advantages of this arrangement:
What to Consider before You Choose Nesting
While you and your ex may be agreeable to the idea of a nesting divorce, a seasoned divorce mediator will ask you to be mindful of various issues and make a carefully considered choice. Here some of the things your mediation expert may want you and your ex-spouse to think about before you dive in:
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