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Why You Need An Attorney When You’ve Hired A Mediator

From Rina Goodman’s Transforming Conflict Blog

When you make decisions about dividing property, selling assets, etc., you could be affecting your legal rights or obligations in ways you did not anticipate.

You desperately want to stay out of court and work on finding a reasonable, even creative, solution to your conflict. Lawyers intimidate you. And you’ve agreed to try to come to an agreement without spending too much of your hard-earned money. So you’ve selected a mediator who, you are confident, can help you sit down and accomplish what at first had seemed a daunting, if not impossible, task.

So what is this your mediator is saying about the importance of consulting with an attorney? You thought that working with the mediator would mean that no lawyers would be involved. Isn’t this going to be expensive? You’re also wary of bringing lawyers into the picture. What if his lawyer convinces him that he doesn’t have to pay maintenance? What if her lawyer tells her that she doesn’t have to have a 50/50 parenting plan?

There are several important reasons why your mediator is encouraging you to consult with a lawyer: Mediators should not provide legal advice or render a legal opinion. If your mediator provides legal advice or offers a legal opinion, she will be influencing an outcome that is likely to favor one party over the other. Additionally, when giving legal advice to both or all parties, the mediator is violating an ethical rule on attorney conduct which prohibits lawyers from advising parties with potentially adverse legal positions.

A lawyer, on the other hand, can act as your advisor and help you become more effective and efficient in the mediation process without pushing you toward the courthouse steps.

If Consulted in the Initial Stages of Mediation, a Legal Advisor Can:

• Explain the law to you as it defines your rights and obligations and describe possible outcomes if you were to go to court.

• Identify the legal issues, help you come up with alternative solutions, and reality test if you are too firm in your bargaining position.

During the Mediation Process, Your Legal Advisor Can:

• Help you select experts during the mediation process in the areas of business valuation, financial planning, actuarial analysis, and property appraisals, in the event consultation with such experts becomes necessary. In mediation, unlike litigation, the cost of these consultations can be shared by the parties and ultimately save you thousands of dollars!

• Explain the legal and financial implications of your decisions as interim agreements are reached, and propose alternative solutions.

• Review the Memorandum of Understanding drafted by your mediator to ensure that all the relevant legal issues have been addressed, that the agreement reflects your understanding, and that there will be no unintended consequences (e.g., tax liabilities) arising from the arrangements agreed to.

• Prepare the legal papers necessary for filing with the court.

How to Find a Lawyer to Assist in the Mediation Process

In order to find a lawyer who is willing to provide advisory or consulting services throughout your mediation, you will need to look for lawyers who provide “unbundled services.” This term simply means that the lawyer offers discrete services (e.g., document review; drafting, etc.) – as opposed to, or in addition to, full representation. One way to find a lawyer who provides unbundled services is by referral from a friend, associate, or family member. Another way is to contact your local bar association. Many family lawyers who are also mediators will act in an advisory capacity. Your mediator may also recommend several consulting lawyers.

Your Legal Advisor Should Meet These Qualifications:

*Specializes in family law or, more specifically, in the area of law affecting your interests (e.g., divorce, elder law, estates, family business).

*Licensed to practice law in your state.

*Has had experience working with parties in mediation.

*Familiar with facilitative mediation – as distinguished from caucus style (shuttle) mediation, settlement conferences, and evaluative mediation.

*Understands and supports his or her client’s goals in achieving a mutually satisfying resolution, even if he or she believes that the client would fare better in court.


Rina M. Goodman

Rina Goodman, owner of Transforming Conflict, LLC, is an attorney and certified mediator with over 200 hours in advanced mediation training, including divorce, elder care, and workplace mediation. She also has had considerable continuing legal education in divorce, relationship dissolution, estate planning, and elder care, and continues her education in… MORE >

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