Conflict
Management Blog by Cinnie Noble
It happens for many of us that we take on the whole responsibility of our interpersonal conflicts – to our detriment. Owning our part is healthy and a reflection of conflict mastery. However, there is a good chance we both contributed and when we engage in self-blame, it is important to explore that and why. This week’s Conflict Mastery Quest(ions) blog aims to do so.
There are many reasons we might use self-blame. Low self-esteem, bad behavior that we regret and feel guilty about, feeling bullied to believe we are totally responsible, wanting to excuse the other person for any number of reasons, and so on.
To answer this week’s questions, it is suggested that you bring to mind an interpersonal dispute in which you are primarily blaming yourself for what occurred.
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